3 Reasons We Grow Weary (And What to Do When We Are)

3 Reasons We Grow Weary (And What to Do When We Are)

Have you ever been so tired you wished you’d come down with a bug, just so you’d have an excuse to stay in bed?

I’ll admit, I’ve hoped for such a thing on more than one occasion.

Last fall was one of our family’s busiest seasons ever. Between sports obligations, church commitments, school assignments, and a full remodel of our 1960’s kitchen, our schedule was incredibly full. Often feelings of weariness, frustration, and just plain anger overwhelmed me.

During those months of crazy, God repeatedly reminded me of the following passage:

“Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:28-30, NIV).

As I prayed through those verses, I realized that several factors can contribute to our feelings of weariness:

  1. We’re carrying burdens of our own

I’m a natural-born people pleaser. As such, it’s really easy for me to over-commit. To take on responsibilities God never asked me to carry. To try to solve people’s problems myself, rather than pointing them to Christ, praying for them, and stepping aside as He works in their lives.

You may have heard the saying, “Every yes to one thing is a no to something else.” I’m not sure who said it first, but I find it helpful to remind myself of that reality. If I’m spending time and energy on things God hasn’t called me to do, I’m unavailable for those areas where He is leading me to serve.

  1. We’re shouldering God-given responsibilities alone

Sometimes, we are living within the calling He’s placed on our lives. Our responsibilities are gifts from Him. Yet we’re weary because we’re trying to carry those things on our own.

We’re living for God, instead of with God.

In the above verses, Jesus references a “yoke,” a piece of wood placed over the necks of oxen for use in plowing a field. Yokes are often placed on a pair of oxen so they can work in sync. Through this image, we see Jesus calling us into the yoke with Him — not because He needs our help, but because we desperately need His. He invites us to walk in moment-by-moment connection with Him as we carry the responsibilities He’s entrusted to our care.

  1. We’re in an intense season of learning

Some seasons are unavoidably exhausting and relentlessly demanding. We’re juggling God-given jobs and we’re looking to Him for strength. Even so, we feel we’re barely hanging on.

Jesus understood. He spent His days loving and serving, teaching and healing. He was no stranger to busyness and exhaustion (Mark 6:31).

In our times of weariness when nothing can or should be changed, He calls us to learn from Him. To fix our gaze on the God who loved well, who knew how to make room for rest, and who poured out His life in service for those He loved.

He was gentle. He was humble. And He is our Source of rest.

So today, if your heart is weary and you’re overwhelmed by life’s burdens, Jesus invites you to draw near.

In the midst of our crazy, one thing matters above all else — walking in relationship with Him. He wants to show us which responsibilities He’s calling us to carry, and He’s eager to bear them with us. He longs to reveal His heart and teach us to find in Him the fulfillment of our every need.

How do you find rest in Him when you’re weary? I’d love to hear — please leave a comment below.

When I’m not Enough…My Source and Supply

When I’m not Enough…My Source and Supply

by Meredith Mills @DazzledByTheSon

I can’t. 


When I’m not enough – strong enough, experienced enough, grown-up enough…

The job is too big. I feel too small. 

The pain is too deep. The broken pieces too many.

I’m not strong enough. Smart enough. Experienced enough…

Have emotions like these every hijacked your heart? It happens to me all. the. time.

Like when the pot’s boiling over, the child’s calling from the bathroom, the phone’s ringing and my hands are in soapy water.

Or when the day looms daunting ahead, and I just want to pull the covers up and go back to sleep.

Or when I go to a writers’ conference and start comparing myself to real writers.

Or when a loved one’s heart is breaking and I want to fix it, heal it, make all the hurt go away.


Life is complicated and messy and rarely turns out how I plan

Life is complicated and messy and it rarely turns out how I plan. Sometimes I feel inadequate for this life God has given me.

That’s why I find the story of Jesus feeding the 5000 so very encouraging (Mark 6:34-44).

Jesus and His disciples needed to get away. Their days were so full of need-meeting that they hadn’t even had time to eat. It was definitely time for a break. But when they arrived at their planned retreat, a large crowd of needy people were waiting.

Jesus’ compassionate heart shifted gears. He spent the day loving on those who came to Him. But by the end of the day, His disciples were done. They came to Him with their plan – “Send the people away so they can eat.”

Jesus’ response astounds me. “You give them something to eat.”

Ummm….come again? We must have misheard Him. Did He say for us to feed them? Doesn’t He know that we can’t feed all these people? Is He that out of touch with “reality”? 

I find myself wondering, why would Jesus tell His followers to do something impossible?

But did He? Was their assignment really impossible?

Actually, He told them exactly what He was about to do – with their hands. They would give those people something to eat.

It seemed impossible, though, because they instinctively looked to their own resources. If they relied on what they had, they would be stuck with just that. Jesus’ plan, however, was bigger than the disciples and their resources.

He told them to take inventory and come talk to Him about it. They brought a mere five loaves and two measly fish to Jesus and watched as He blessed what they gave Him. Then He put into their hands what they needed to feed every one of those people.

But not all at once. He gave them a little and they gave it away. When they used it all up, Jesus gave them more. And they did it again. And again. And again, until every person was fed.

And that is how we do the impossible, too. 


Broken and small, but enough in His hands.

We offer ourselves to Jesus – all our strengths and weaknesses, experiences and memories, joys and sorrows…all we have and all we are. He takes what we give Him, broken or small as it may be. Then He uses our hands, our hearts, to feed the hungry souls around us and to live out His call on our lives.

He gives us wisdom for decisions we must make.

He provides strength to do more than we’re capable of on our own.

He forms endurance in us through the struggles we face.

He tunes our hearts to His so He can love the world through us.

He does this over and over again, as we keep coming back to Him for more – more intimacy, more grace, more strength, ultimately, more of Him.

For God Himself is both our Source and our Supply. He has already given us everything we need for godly living. (Check out 2 Cor 3:5 and 2 Pet 1:3.)

What about you? How have you seen Him multiply your “loaves and fish” so you can live beyond yourself? Please join in the conversation – I’d love to learn from your journey!

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When the Day Looks Daunting

Does the day ahead ever look daunting? Do you see it looming mountainous in front of you, and just want to pull the covers back over your head?


Sometimes I’m just tired. Other times, the memories of yesterday shake any courage I might have had for today. Still other mornings, I know that today holds things I just don’t want to tackle.

On such days, like today, it’s time for some soul-talk. I dare not let my heart lead.

Here’s what I’m reminding myself today…

Everything needed for Christlike living – it’s already mine. I lack nothing. I may feel inadequate for the challenges of the day. But Jesus is my sufficiency. His Word is my sword. His Spirit is my Guide. His armor is my defense. His truth is my freedom. “His divine power has given us everything we need for a godly life through our knowledge of Him…” (2 Pet 1:3).

I can do everything though Jesus – His wisdom, His strength, His grace. “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me” (Phil 4:13).

God has already prepared good works for me to do today – I don’t have to do everything, just those things He leads me to do as I walk with Him. His Holy Spirit will work through me to produce His fruit. “For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do” (Eph 2:10). “For it is God who is working in you, enabling you both to desire and to work out His good purposes” (Phil 2:13).

God is good, and nothing can shake that. He has dealt bountifully with me. It is ok, even necessary, to “return to rest.” To stop and breathe. To take a “time out” when I feel frustrations mount or when my resolve begins to crumble. It does the soul good to recount the Lord’s kindness. “Return to your rest, O my soul, for the Lord has dealt bountifully with you (Ps 116:7).


So here goes – let’s do this thing!

What soul-talk helps you face a daunting day? Feel free to join the conversation! I’d love to hear your thoughts!